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There are people in real life (and on these forums too...) who think of sex as if it's some sort of accomplishment. Really? I don't care if you do it, but just don't talk about it like you're some sort of god.:cort:

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To me sex is just sex, it is not as big a deal as people made out. I have no issue with sleeping about as long as it is safe etc. Even then if they choose not to that is their stupid mistake.

Society these days take sex far too seriously, especially with younger people (for obvious reasons). People make it an accomplishment, a big deal but when it comes down to it...it's just another thing you will do that day.

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I don't like sex all that much. It's exhausting. Honestly, a few years ago I used to be depressed that I'd never had a girlfriend or anything, but then I went to university and found out that I'm just... not that kind of person, I guess? Made the discovery that I hate being social, going out, meeting girls, having sex. Had a few girlfriends but every time I was with them I was just so bored. I'd rather have a few rounds of TF2 than have a few rounds of... Yeah.

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i got 3 kids and another on the way. Sex needs to be more limited if anything in my household.

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Convert to Catholicism, then you'll be an underachiever.

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That much I can believe. Chances of me turning into a raging sex addict once I've had my first time? :naughty:

in all seriousness though, I can appreciate that it would change with time, especially with younger generations. I would expect that many people in their 30's and 40's today had some fun in their youth, though have since settled down in a steady relationship.

:lulz:

This is something that (to a point) bugs me; that if I were to enter a relationship, I'd lose my individuality. I need only look at my parents for that. They're both happy, and I'd say still in love, but my Dad is clearly 'the bitch'. There are other concerns too; most of my friends that are in relationships (and those that have been in them, along with my brother) ~ their respective partners are their whole life. I've even lost a few friends because they've become involved in a relationship and dropped all their friends as a result. I wouldn't want to become like that.

Oh, don't get me wrong, I can appreciate people want to have fun, especially in such destinations. The problem that I specifically have is their ignorance of their own safety. If 200 girls a night are asking for the morning after pill, then that's roughly 200 girls a night that are having unprotected sex. Add the male counterparts to this, and you've potentially got 400 people who might now have an STI or STD, who are quite capable of passing it on to others when they return home.

:lulz: Reminds me of a friend of mine, he's in no way the stud he thought he used to be (he's grown up since those days) but I remember the conversations we used to have, and his reply of "well at least I've had sex" when he couldn't contribute to an argument or something. Quite lame. :nodding: Thankfully he's matured a little since then.

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my friend (ex) had sex for the first time as a sophmore (I was a senior at the time and still "clean"). He would never shut up about it. He would use it as a defense and general insult to me. Never bothered with me, Sex would just be the icing on life's (rather bland) cake.

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Deep down I believe that sex should only happen between two people that care deeply for each other. "Making love" I guess is what you can call it. It should bring a couple closer, make one another feel that they don't have to hide anything, feel completely comfortable and open sexually and mentally. And yes, I know that doesn't always seem to happen. I myself has had a one night stand three times, it was a time in my life I want to forget. I'm not going to sit here and blame the fact the I was flat ass drunk all three times, I was aware of what I was doing and I know they were also. I admit at the time I was lonely and depressed, it was after my divorce and I think I wanted to feel wanted in some way. But when it's all over you don't feel satisfied, you feel dirty and feel the exact same, or even worse. Perhaps there are people who just do that to get off, and that's it. I do find that hard to believe. I think everyone wants to have the certain person they can feel a real connection with.

Let's say you get pregnant or get someone pregnant during a one night stand. My view is you should of know that could possibly happen when you had sex with the person, and take the responsibility. I am highly against abortion, and if your not ready for a child even though you took the chance, I say give it up for adoption. There are so many women out the who cannot have children of their own. If you cannot love and care for the child yourself, someone else will.

As for STD, you went in also knowing that it could be a possibility, if it happens I'm sorry. Nothing really I can say about that.

Ending words: Not saying the person your having sex with has to be your wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend. What I mean is, it just should be someone you care for a lot. Though I would rather be in a couple with a person. Having sex with a close friend never ends well, believe me, someone will always get hurt.

I have much more to say one this subject, but I'll probably add more later, I feel like my words are going to start running together, lol.

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I am afraid that I disagree.

Sex can be whatever you make of it. If you are with somebody with whom you love it will probably be more special, like you mentioned. hell from experience I would say it is more 'special' as lame as that sounds.

But then sex can just be sex, can just be about pulling some random hot girl. If you don't want a relationship but would like to experience sex or just want to get laid I find there to be no issue. The only issue I find is more of a flaw, where either the woman or man will 'use' the other person, usually by knowing that the other person loves them/likes them etc and that the other person has no feelings towards them. I find that to be wrong. You are using somebody in its quite literall form.


I don't believe that for one second nobody realises the risk of having sex. Of course everyone who has sex will know that the woman has a chance to get pregnant. Both people know the risk and they still go ahead then they have both taken that risk and informally agreed to the consequences. If a girl gets pregnant well then it is down to them what they want to happen. I have no problem with abortion except when people almost 'abuse' it. If you are going around having unprotected sex willingly and knowingly. multiple times, then having abortions or getting the girl to get an abortion you are quite frankly sick, but I doubt there is 100 people in the world like that.

If 2 people have a one night stand and the girl ends up pregnant it is their decision what to do. After all, if they used protection it is clear they did not want a baby.

You know the possibility, you know the risk, it is your decision to take that risk.

Why? I understand your point of view but take me for example. I had a horrific break up with my ex. For the past 6 months I have wanted nothing serious, I just wanted to get back out their and get with some girls. Which I did, is there anything wrong with that? I don't want a relationship, the girls basically knew that it was just sex, nothing more. Is there something wrong with that? I did not want a commitment and am only just now started seeing somebody properly and even now am still a bit reluctant to make any commitment.

I see no wrong in that.

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People wanna go in having meaningless sex, well good for them. I though, think it should be more then that, you don't right on, meaningless sex ftw? But I'm 99.9 percent sure that not all and I didn't say every girl, but a few aren't going in for the meaningless sex. Well the guys I know will do anything to get laid and pretend to want something more when they really don't, they just wanna get off.

Gahh running outta time! Gotta go to work v.v Finish my replies later :3