Whats wrong with this convo?

[Videoslave]

Alright theres this girl I meet online she seems to like me and I like her however when we do meet things become akward from my part and I explained to her that I'm afarid of large crowds.

Please don't laugh at me becuase I get that at school alot I just want to know were I went wrong in this convo becuase I kno I messed up and I don't know were and why so could you please fill me in.

Well heres how our facebook convo went...

Spoiler:

hey how come you barley talk to me on msn this week?
I wanted to retrun the favor for invinting me to your school dance and i was going to take you out this weekend what do you say?




9:01pm Apr 22nd
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um.. sorry i can't






5:28pm Apr 23rd


ok then next weekend mabey?







10:02pm Apr 23rd
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Probably not


8:33pm Apr 24th

then when?







11:29pm Apr 24th
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I don't know?






5:46pm Apr 25th


ok... I see you really don't give a shit do you?







2:19am Apr 26th
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Erg..
Justin the truth is,
at the semi, you were kind of making my friends and I feel very awkward.
The way you looked at us and some of the stuff you did.






4:00pm Apr 26th


I'm really sorry about that I was really nervous becuase I didnt know to people and I hope that we can still be friends and I don't make you feel unconfortable.
hope to hear from you soon.







1:07pm Apr 27th


* I meant to say "too many people"
I believe I did mention to you nd your friend that I have a phobia of new enviroments & people so that was just a reaction i had... but hey do you still want to be friends or you really hate me for being that werid?







3:12pm Apr 27th
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I don't know.






3:03pm Apr 28th


just tell me the truth...?





4:17pm Apr 28th
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And if I don't know what the truth is?






4:42pm Apr 28th


Then I guess you dont care right now?
but I do cause I don't have much friends.







7:06pm Apr 28th
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I really don't know






7:32pm Apr 28th
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And Justin, not to be rude, but could you maybe stop trying to call?.. I really don't feel like talking and my parents are getting annoyed






3:27pm Apr 29th


Yea I'll stop. However I only called once this week so yr parents are really gay, I hope there not too hard on ya becuase of me, sorry.
However can you please do me a favor and unblock me on msn?





5:26pm Apr 29th
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eh?.
Yeah they're both bitches
I'm surprised that my mom didn't just yell at me for walking to shoppers =/
I guess she expects me to do weird things now.
okay..






8:17pm Apr 29th


C'om just unblock me already! I really miss talking to you.

Anyway when it comes to parents it sure as hell sucks to be you in that matter. My parents are alright in most things.








10:16pm Apr 29th
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I did unblock you..






3:21pm Apr 30th


alright.
however I still see you don't respond like you used to (before the semi) what does this mean?







8:29pm Apr 30th
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um. well I didn't respond because you messaged me at like 3:05 whereas my bus doesnt drop me off until later cause im on the last stop.
Stop being paranoid.





3:41pm May 1st


well I was still online almost all day so you could of easily sent me a msg when you got home but you didnt =|
I can't stop on my own... this may sound crazy but I may need your help with that.





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8:40pm May 1st
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=s




1:09pm May 4th


Nevermind. I was just silly when I asked that.







7:56pm May 4th
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ok?

*I talk to her on msn and right before she tells me "good bye" she tells me she'll play some GTA 4 so I'm thinking oh hell yea!





4:27pm May 5th


bare with me now, dont confuss your self just becuase I'm emotionally confussed individual. Just tell me about how your Grand Theft Auto 4 match went today...





5:23pm May 5th
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um?.
I dont know what to say? I did missions, drove a helicopter and got killed a few times.
that wraps it up






3:29pm May 6th


lol I'm sure you know what to say...
I'm the one that dosent :P
so are you good at playing GTA 4?







5:57pm May 6th
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i duno






6:02pm May 6th


lol I'd love to face you in that game...
*this is the sad part for me becuase she deleted her facebook and blocked me on msn. now E-mail is my only hope however I'm thinking I should give it some time before I talk to her again.

[Datarock]

Originally Posted by Videoslave

Alright theres this girl I meet online she seems to like me[...]

With respect, she really doesn't seem at all that interested judging by that particular conversation. She doesn't seem to know what she wants either.

[Rich19]

This might just be me, but I would stop going on about how you are "emotionally confused" if I were you.

[homo sine domino]

Use spoiler tags next time. Also, I believe this is more of a General Yib-Yab (Off Topic) topic rather than one for the Pub.

[Bs|Archaon]

You're being bloody pushy considering that it's a girl who, by the sound of things, you barely know. Being like that won't get you anywhere with 99.9% of girls. I would tell you to back off for a bit but to be honest it looks like you've screwed it up too badly for that to make the slightest bit of difference now.

[Videoslave]

Originally Posted by tyrannicida

Use spoiler tags next time. Also, I believe this is more of a General Yib-Yab (Off Topic) topic rather than one for the Pub.

Well I put this thread in the pub becuase it is a real life issue I am trying to deal with.

Originally Posted by Bs|Archaon

You're being bloody pushy considering that it's a girl who, by the sound of things, you barely know. Being like that won't get you anywhere with 99.9% of girls. I would tell you to back off for a bit but to be honest it looks like you've screwed it up too badly for that to make the slightest bit of difference now.

Well I only asked if she wants to go out with me becuase I already went out with her at her school dance even thought that didnt go very well becuase of mistakes on my part. The reason I want to go out with her again is becuase I can sense we have alot in common.

[S.T.A.L.K.E.R.]

To me you sound like your one of those "clingy emo" types in that convo. Regardless of whether that is true or not it seems like she has made up her mind that some time apart is needed.

[Videoslave]

Originally Posted by S.T.A.L.K.E.R.

To me you sound like your one of those "clingy emo" types in that convo. Regardless of whether that is true or not it seems like she has made up her mind that some time apart is needed.

What is a "clingy emo"?

[S.T.A.L.K.E.R.]

Originally Posted by Videoslave

What is a "clingy emo"?

Exactly what it sounds like, a clingy emotional person.

[Nemmerle]

Originally Posted by Videoslave

Whats wrong with this convo?

Nigh on everything

The conversation went bad from the first message. I'll just do this the simple way.

hey how come you barley talk to me on msn this week?

Bad opening. Comes across as needy and a bit pushy. If she cared to tell you why she’d make excuses for herself without you prompting her.

I wanted to retrun the favor for invinting me to your school dance and i was going to take you out this weekend what do you say?

Most people don’t like thinking of relationships as a trade system, if you phrase it in those terms whether it’s true or not it makes them uncomfortable. Besides the subtext here could be read that you just don’t want to seem indebted to her. It’s a really strange thing to say in the context.

9:01pm Apr 22nd
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um.. sorry i can't

5:28pm Apr 23rd

ok then next weekend mabey?

When people say ‘can’t’ a lot of the time they really mean ‘won’t.’ If she wanted to go she’d suggest another time for herself.

10:02pm Apr 23rd
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Probably not


8:33pm Apr 24th

then when?

At this point it’s pretty obvious the answer’s going to be along the lines of, ‘never,’ but she doesn’t want to seem mean.

11:29pm Apr 24th
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I don't know?

5:46pm Apr 25th
ok... I see you really don't give a shit do you?

Yeah make her seem like the bad guy in the situation, she’ll thank you for that.

2:19am Apr 26th
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Erg..
Justin the truth is,
at the semi, you were kind of making my friends and I feel very awkward.
The way you looked at us and some of the stuff you did.

4:00pm Apr 26th

I'm really sorry about that I was really nervous becuase I didnt know to people and I hope that we can still be friends and I don't make you feel unconfortable.
hope to hear from you soon.

Of course you make her feel uncomfortable, and if new people make you that nervous as well then she’d stand to be in many more situations that make her uncomfortable if she went out with you on any sort of extended basis.

1:07pm Apr 27th

* I meant to say "too many people"
I believe I did mention to you nd your friend that I have a phobia of new enviroments & people so that was just a reaction i had... but hey do you still want to be friends or you really hate me for being that werid?

Leave that sort of excuse, whether it’s true or not, well out of the conversation. People are often happier either with an omission of the truth or a straight out lie, if you can’t do that then relationships are going to be very difficult for you.

3:12pm Apr 27th
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I don't know.

If she doesn’t know she doesn’t really like you.

3:03pm Apr 28th


just tell me the truth...?

Entirely what she’s trying to avoid since she’s worried saying it to you would make her seem like a bad person.

4:17pm Apr 28th
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And if I don't know what the truth is?

4:42pm Apr 28th


Then I guess you dont care right now?
but I do cause I don't have much friends.

Mentioning how anti-social you are is a bad move. As is pushing for the truth at this point. When they’re trying to avoid the truth people don’t like to be pushed towards it and insisting on it makes you unlikely to get an answer you want.

7:06pm Apr 28th
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I really don't know

7:32pm Apr 28th
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And Justin, not to be rude, but could you maybe stop trying to call?.. I really don't feel like talking and my parents are getting annoyed

3:27pm Apr 29th
Yea I'll stop. However I only called once this week so yr parents are really gay, I hope there not too hard on ya becuase of me, sorry.
However can you please do me a favor and unblock me on msn?

If she wanted to talk to you over MSN you wouldn’t be blocked on it, pushing for further access to her after she’s essentially told you she doesn’t care about you very much just comes off as weird.

5:26pm Apr 29th
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eh?.
Yeah they're both bitches
I'm surprised that my mom didn't just yell at me for walking to shoppers =/
I guess she expects me to do weird things now.
okay..
8:17pm Apr 29th
C'om just unblock me already! I really miss talking to you.

Are you giving her an order here? Clearly she doesn’t miss talking to you so leave her alone.

Anyway when it comes to parents it sure as hell sucks to be you in that matter. My parents are alright in most things.

Remind her how much her life sucks, she’ll enjoy talking about that.

10:16pm Apr 29th
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I did unblock you..

3:21pm Apr 30th


alright.
however I still see you don't respond like you used to (before the semi) what does this mean?

You can’t work it out at this point? It means she finds you odd but doesn’t have the balls to tell you to get lost. Even asking here is out of place since it indicates you lack the social intelligence to work it out for yourself.

8:29pm Apr 30th
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um. well I didn't respond because you messaged me at like 3:05 whereas my bus doesnt drop me off until later cause im on the last stop.
Stop being paranoid.

3:41pm May 1st


well I was still online almost all day so you could of easily sent me a msg when you got home but you didnt =|

Never ever contradict people’s excuses if you don’t want to throw a spanner in the works.

I can't stop on my own... this may sound crazy but I may need your help with that.

What she’s your counsellor now to load with your emotional baggage? Don’t see why that’d make you seem like a great person to know to her.

8:40pm May 1st
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=s




1:09pm May 4th
Nevermind. I was just silly when I asked that.

And how many more silly moments is she going to think of when you say that? It just reminds her of the other things you’ve said.

7:56pm May 4th
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ok?

*I talk to her on msn and right before she tells me "good bye" she tells me she'll play some GTA 4 so I'm thinking oh hell yea!





4:27pm May 5th

bare with me now, dont confuss your self just becuase I'm emotionally confussed individual. Just tell me about how your Grand Theft Auto 4 match went today...

‘Emotionally confused’ aren’t really good words to describe yourself with. Telling someone to tell you something about themselves also comes off as being rather odd, usually information like that is volunteered in answer to a question not surrendered in response to an order.

5:23pm May 5th
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um?.
I dont know what to say? I did missions, drove a helicopter and got killed a few times.
that wraps it up






3:29pm May 6th


lol I'm sure you know what to say...
I'm the one that dosent :P
so are you good at playing GTA 4?

I doubt she does know what to say to get the sort of response she’s looking for. If she did she’d have done away with all the screwing around and ‘I’m not sure’ and just told you to get lost.

5:57pm May 6th
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i duno






6:02pm May 6th


lol I'd love to face you in that game...

What as? A hooker, a murder victim? Considering the setting it’s not really something you tell a girl you’d like to face them in.

*this is the sad part for me becuase she deleted her facebook and blocked me on msn. now E-mail is my only hope however I'm thinking I should give it some time before I talk to her again.

I’m thinking you should leave her the hell alone.