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Dell970 May 14th, 2008 01:21 PM

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And I thought I had it ruff In highschool with my GF, even through your not in Hi school.

I suggest you hadn't bring up GTA.

I suggest you try to contact her in Real life, after giving her a week to cool down. Get some flowers, get a clean shave, etc, and go to her house. Really Tell her you are sorry and didn't try to be a prick (lawl)

Videoslave May 14th, 2008 01:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Dell970 (Post 4343326)
And I thought I had it ruff In highschool with my GF, even through your not in Hi school.

I suggest you hadn't bring up GTA.

I suggest you try to contact her in Real life, after giving her a week to cool down. Get some flowers, get a clean shave, etc, and go to her house. Really Tell her you are sorry and didn't try to be a prick (lawl)

I actually am in highschool and I've never had a girl friend.

I brought up GTA becuase I know that were both into that video game and when it comes too video games I can talk for days about them.

I really think going to her house unexpectedly will make me seem as werid as a stoned dog. My plan is to first talk to her online and make things right between us and as more time passes on I'll ask her out.

Dell970 May 14th, 2008 01:56 PM

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I actually am in highschool and I've never had a girl friend.

I brought up GTA becuase I know that were both into that video game and when it comes too video games I can talk for days about them.
Ya, Video Gaming isnt a great thing to bring up it with females.

Umm, Since your in High school, I would suggest maybe asking one of her best friends to help you out? Let her or him expain the situation and that you are truly sorry?

OR BETTER YET.

When she is in Math Class or Maths Class, what ever its called, Walk in randomly, yell at the teacher to sit down and shut up, Go down on one leg with flowers in front of her (Like you would if you were going to ask her to marry you) say "Baby, I am really sorry, Will You forgive me?" It'll be soooo romantic that she'll forget everything.

(lmao)


Youg Love......

colonel_bob May 14th, 2008 02:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Dell970 (Post 4343373)
Ya, Video Gaming isnt a great thing to bring up it with females.

Umm, Since your in High school, I would suggest maybe asking one of her best friends to help you out? Let her or him expain the situation and that you are truly sorry?

OR BETTER YET.

When she is in Math Class or Maths Class, what ever its called, Walk in randomly, yell at the teacher to sit down and shut up, Go down on one leg with flowers in front of her (Like you would if you were going to ask her to marry you) say "Baby, I am really sorry, Will You forgive me?" It'll be soooo romantic that she'll forget everything.

(lmao)


Youg Love......

Um. I don't think they were ever dating in the first place, so this would probably be a very bad idea...

The Body Popper May 14th, 2008 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Dell970 (Post 4343373)
Ya, Video Gaming isnt a great thing to bring up it with females.


thats not entirely true. My girlfriend just got Brawl the other day. I went over to her house and we played for hours. And just yesterday, we had a two hour long conversation about Majoras Mask. If the girl is into it, there's no reason not to talk about it.

Dell970 May 14th, 2008 02:11 PM

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thats not entirely true. My girlfriend just got Brawl the other day. I went over to her house and we played for hours. And just yesterday, we had a two hour long conversation about Majoras Mask. If the girl is into it, there's no reason not to talk about it.
It counts on the girl, if its a sport girl or girly girly, you may not want too. But I suggest you would use (Aka Games) use that as another topic later on.

The OR BETTER YET. part of my reply was a joke xD

The Fat Controller May 14th, 2008 02:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Videoslave (Post 4343368)
I actually am in highschool and I've never had a girl friend.

I brought up GTA becuase I know that were both into that video game and when it comes too video games I can talk for days about them.

I really think going to her house unexpectedly will make me seem as werid as a stoned dog. My plan is to first talk to her online and make things right between us and as more time passes on I'll ask her out.

The fact she deleted her Facebook profile because of you is reason enough to leave her well alone. If someone is actively trying to distance themselves from you, coming after them will really seem bad. I basically agree with Nemmerle on the breakdown of the conversation he did earlier, and his conclusion.

Edit: Sorry, I misread the last part of your post. I really don't think you want to be asking this girl out at any point, from what I've seen here the girl doesn't want to be mean, but really thinks you're weird and has an active dislike.

Oblivious May 14th, 2008 04:19 PM

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My advice is this: Don't assume too many things about the actions of others. Don't try too hard. Be patient. Loosen up a bit around new people and just be yourself. If people can't like you for who you are, then they apparently aren't the right people for you to be around.

You may have already ruined any chances with her by pestering her over things when she sounded genuinely unsure of her own opinion of you and your actions at your dance. Reading your transcript seemed like you were badgering her, almost stalker-ish, and I imagine that's not your intent. Had you let her be for awhile, and let her figure it out at her own pace, it may have worked out. Bare in mind though that it's entirely possible that you just aren't the right one for her, and she knows it. It may feel shitty, but you need to move on if that's the case, which I suspect is here.

There are plenty of fish in the sea, so don't get too hung up on just one of them. You're young and still learning the whole relationship process. I'm twice your age and I still can't figure out women, but I've learned enough to realize that they just want you to be yourself, be honest, and do the little things to show you're thinking about them. If a person needs their "space", give it to them. There's always a little give/take in a relationship, but if it's truly right, it will come easy for both of you by just acting natural. You/she shouldn't have to compromise who you are to satisfy the other person. I've also learned to recognize when it isn't right, to admit it to yourself. Whether it's signals they send that show disinterest (as her msn was showing), or not to lead someone on who likes you, but you aren't interested in (be honest and tell them).

Just my $0.02

On a side note, since we're talkin' relationships... (off-topic)
Spoiler:
Since my divorce 9 months ago, I've been kinda playin' the field to find myself and the "right one" again. Trying to (openly) not get too serious since I haven't really felt "over" my wife yet. As of last night, I'm back to dating just one woman now. A girl I dated months ago that I just can't seem to get out of my head. We really do love each other and are going to give it a real shot. Everything comes so easy with us. We have fun doing anything; just sitting around or going to the grocery store is a blast with her. She is planning to take me out this weekend with some of her girlfriends and afterwards it sounds like I'm getting raped by her and one or two of them. (I'm so down with that!) I'll be sure to bring a few raincoats along. Can't be too safe these days. ;) I fear I may be getting too old for this, but what the hell, I was married monogomously for 12 years and ya only live once... (Yeah, she's certainly not a prude)

Anyways, I'm loved and in love again, and it feels very good. I seriously, in the back of my mind, think I may spend the rest of my life with this one! At the very least, we should have some good years, it really feels that right after being around enough "Mrs. Wrongs". Wish me luck!

Red Menace May 14th, 2008 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Videoslave (Post 4343255)
Well I might be able to talk to her again becuase my friend who hooked me up with her told me he'll try to get her to unblock me on msn again. So if say she decides to unblock me but she isn't talking to me exactly what happend the last time should I start off with a greeting or this is a bad move on my part becuase of this peice of history?

What seems to be the consensus is it's best to leave her alone. If she unblocks you but says nothing, you say nothing, she will speak to you when she wants to speak with you, if she wants to speak with you at all.

GreatGrizzly May 15th, 2008 01:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Videoslave (Post 4343255)
Well I might be able to talk to her again becuase my friend who hooked me up with her told me he'll try to get her to unblock me on msn again. So if say she decides to unblock me but she isn't talking to me exactly what happend the last time should I start off with a greeting or this is a bad move on my part becuase of this peice of history?

DO NOT TALK TO HER. I cant stress that enough. Let her initiate the conversation. Then you can talk to her.

If you are tempted to talk to her, take her off your buddy list (or whatever lists you have her on). She will still be able to talk to you when she is ready.

If you share classes with her, still do not start a conversation with her unless she starts one first. HOWEVER, if she looks at you, you should smile, and then pretend to do something else. This part can be tricky: You dont want to seem rude by ignoring her, but you dont want to appear interested in her. Its all a big game, and you eventually learn what works and doesnt.

Its hard to forget someone you have feelings for. Its also hard to drop someone that has feelings for you without totally crushing them. Trust me, I have experienced both sides of this issue.


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