but it is possible he has realized it was a mistake to leave you
*shakes head* Uh-uh. Trust me, it would take a month to list every reason why I doubt that.
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1) He's giving you the money because he feels guilty and wants to bribe you back into his good graces
2) He generally is sorry for what he has done but in his view giving you money is the best way to atone for the past.
Well, whatever it is, money isn't going to do it. You can't buy trust.
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If he keeps giving you money, explain to him that it won't buy you back, or you could keep getting the money, and never tell him.
Well, he hasn't contacted me since... :lol:
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Maybe he still loves you?
Again, unlikely. I've never been good enough for him. Ever. And if you can't buy my trust, you most certainly cannot buy my love.
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Why don't you honestly approach him and talk to him?
Well, he couldn't even be bothered to tell me he'd moved house. If it hadn't been for other family members, it's a real possibility that I never would have seen him again.
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a third explanation would be : He gave you monies as a present, because he didnt know what else to give you?
As Monster_user says, why so much money?
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has your Father matured? Has he finally grown up. Will he take responsibility for his actions?
No. No. And no. If he had finally matured, he would have apologised to my great-grandmother. He hasn't and so the rest of the family wished no contact with him.
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It seems like there is a lot of anger, even hate, in your family. It is not healthy.
Why? Every family has it's problems. Ours is him. Although, I sometimes have a hard time trying to stop myself punching out my grandfather's lights (mother's side). He thinks I should grow up to be a 1950's headteacher because that's what he was. Let's not get started on him though.
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Well.. at birthdays its not unusual I get 100 quid from my parents, simply because they can afford it and stuff.
Well, previous years, I've recieved £80 Christmas and birthday money total. This year I got £210 (£10 from my great-grandmother).
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Now, If his dad was a poor ass and stuff like that I would wonder.. but I doubt he is.
Don't ask me. I haven't got a clue. First we heard that he'd filed for backruptcy, now we hear that it's not true. I'm confused. Judging by the cash, it's probably not true though.
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complete lack of ideas on what to get you.
Then he should have asked. Not that I had any idea myself beyond XBox 360 and books.
'And lo, Jade struck down the evil-doers and restored peace to this Canon. But the Mary Sues would strike again...' The Book of Jade 32:15
'Unleashing your imagination requires an imagination to unleash.'
He feels really, really guilty. Sounds like you and pop need a good long sit down. I hope he's man enough to do it, but it will be hard because whether he will ever admit it or not, he knows he's failed at being a good father, and he has hurt you terribly.
You need to be honest with him at how his leaving has made you feel. It might not be a bad idea to just forward him your thread starter. Good luck.
I'd say try to talk to him. He is your dad after all, the only one you'll ever have. Arrange something simple like a lunch together on a weekend to talk about things.
I know how it feels. My dad left when I was 4 but we've maintained a strong relationship. However, I still feel like he feels sorry for what happened and he is constantly trying to make me happy with him. That may be what's happening with your father. He regrets what happened and, since you are his son, he's still being your father.
*shakes head* Uh-uh. Trust me, it would take a month to list every reason why I doubt that.
Seems you're being a bit stubborn. Why not at least try?
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Well, whatever it is, money isn't going to do it. You can't buy trust.
True, but it's the only way he knows how to approach you at this point.
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Again, unlikely. I've never been good enough for him. Ever. And if you can't buy my trust, you most certainly cannot buy my love.
You sound very childish here, and a bit self-pitying. I honestly think that you're telling yourself that to avoid having to man up and call him.
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As Monster_user says, why so much money?
Because you're his son! I don't think you understand fully the gravity of that statement and fact. A father's love knows no bounds, and he is simply trying to make you happy.
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No. No. And no. If he had finally matured, he would have apologised to my great-grandmother. He hasn't and so the rest of the family wished no contact with him.
I don't even want to know what that's about.
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Why? Every family has it's problems. Ours is him. Although, I sometimes have a hard time trying to stop myself punching out my grandfather's lights (mother's side). He thinks I should grow up to be a 1950's headteacher because that's what he was. Let's not get started on him though.
1) the comment on your grandfather was irrelevant and attention-seeking. I'm beginning to think more and more that you're the one needing a place to let this all out (like a psychiatrist)
2) wrong. other "normal" families don't typically have issues wherein the son hates his father for reasons yet unexplained other than he left. But simply because you refuse to make well with him suggests that you're afraid to do so, and is added to by the fact that you are too willing to change the subject to some other family member instead.
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Re: Is My Dad Insane? 
but still.. people are getting more and more money, and I know loads of people for whom it isnt rare 
Judging by the cash, it's probably not true though.
"No, I do NOT want to talk about it."
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