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a third explanation would be : He gave you monies as a present, because he didnt know what else to give you?

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That may be the simplest explanation, and the simplest explanation is usually the best, and/or the correct one.

However, why so much?

Following the trend here, Your father is on the outside looking in. His mistakes have caught up with him, and he almost had nowhere to turn.

The question remains, has your Father matured? Has he finally grown up. Will he take responsibility for his actions?

It seems like there is a lot of anger, even hate, in your family. It is not healthy.

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Well.. at birthdays its not unusual I get 100 quid from my parents, simply because they can afford it and stuff.

Now, If his dad was a poor ass and stuff like that I would wonder.. but I doubt he is.

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That's around $225 AUD. Shit. My folks sound like cheapskates now. =p

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hehe only on special occations though ;) but still.. people are getting more and more money, and I know loads of people for whom it isnt rare

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Guilt or complete lack of ideas on what to get you.

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*shakes head* Uh-uh. Trust me, it would take a month to list every reason why I doubt that.

Well, whatever it is, money isn't going to do it. You can't buy trust.

Well, he hasn't contacted me since... :lol:

Again, unlikely. I've never been good enough for him. Ever. And if you can't buy my trust, you most certainly cannot buy my love.

Well, he couldn't even be bothered to tell me he'd moved house. If it hadn't been for other family members, it's a real possibility that I never would have seen him again.

As Monster_user says, why so much money?

No. No. And no. If he had finally matured, he would have apologised to my great-grandmother. He hasn't and so the rest of the family wished no contact with him.

Why? Every family has it's problems. Ours is him. Although, I sometimes have a hard time trying to stop myself punching out my grandfather's lights (mother's side). He thinks I should grow up to be a 1950's headteacher because that's what he was. Let's not get started on him though.

Well, previous years, I've recieved £80 Christmas and birthday money total. This year I got £210 (£10 from my great-grandmother).

Don't ask me. I haven't got a clue. First we heard that he'd filed for backruptcy, now we hear that it's not true. I'm confused. :confused: Judging by the cash, it's probably not true though.

Then he should have asked. Not that I had any idea myself beyond XBox 360 and books.

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He feels really, really guilty. Sounds like you and pop need a good long sit down. I hope he's man enough to do it, but it will be hard because whether he will ever admit it or not, he knows he's failed at being a good father, and he has hurt you terribly.

You need to be honest with him at how his leaving has made you feel. It might not be a bad idea to just forward him your thread starter. Good luck.

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I'd say try to talk to him. He is your dad after all, the only one you'll ever have. Arrange something simple like a lunch together on a weekend to talk about things.

I know how it feels. My dad left when I was 4 but we've maintained a strong relationship. However, I still feel like he feels sorry for what happened and he is constantly trying to make me happy with him. That may be what's happening with your father. He regrets what happened and, since you are his son, he's still being your father.

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Seems you're being a bit stubborn. Why not at least try?


True, but it's the only way he knows how to approach you at this point.


You sound very childish here, and a bit self-pitying. I honestly think that you're telling yourself that to avoid having to man up and call him.



Because you're his son! I don't think you understand fully the gravity of that statement and fact. A father's love knows no bounds, and he is simply trying to make you happy.


I don't even want to know what that's about.



1) the comment on your grandfather was irrelevant and attention-seeking. I'm beginning to think more and more that you're the one needing a place to let this all out (like a psychiatrist)

2) wrong. other "normal" families don't typically have issues wherein the son hates his father for reasons yet unexplained other than he left. But simply because you refuse to make well with him suggests that you're afraid to do so, and is added to by the fact that you are too willing to change the subject to some other family member instead.