Help Please
 

I don't so much need advice as much as I need a script:

I met this girl this last monday, who I had sex with and is now good friends with my brother. She then proceeded to call me a whole bunch, and after more sex, I ended up visiting her at her workplace (she's a lifeguard), and we went to the mall and she held my hand and even kissed me goodbye (which definitely means 'seeing eachother').

Meanwhile, I have the hots for this girl I work with, whom I danced my ass off tonight (the feeling's mutual).

I definitely don't feel anything for this original girl (Brandi), but it seems like she loves me, and I haven't been indicative at all that I don't want a relationship or anything with her. She's also started telling about problems with her home life (ugh).

*EDIT* If my brother and her didn't become friends, I would love to have just stopped answerng her calls. I'm an asshole like that.

Basically, tommorow, I need to call her up and 'dump her', and it will be unexpected and without a visible reason. What I need is a script. I can't BS her and tell her I don't want a relationship or whatever, because she's good friends iwth my twin brother.

So, what should I tell her. I'm thinking of going along the lines of 'You're a sweet girl, the sex was good, and it's not you, it's me', but I really need a solid script. Any suggestions?

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How about it's not me it's you?

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What the...

Moved to the Pub.

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Do not shit where you eat is my advice, depending on how much you like your job that is.
If you are dead set on this I will think of something...

Wait a sec... how if you just met her Monday is she NOW good friends with your brother? I don't get it.
Brandi sounds like a clinger, just tell her the truth that you have feelings for someone else. You will sleep much better.

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I had to do the EXACT same thing a few weeks ago, except for the life-guard part...


Anyway, just do it, it's hard at first, but you will be glad you did it when it's all over. Don't hang in no relationsships that you actually doubt..

goodluck with it :cya:

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Mabye get her, and your brother together... Or if you and your brother are identical twins, Swap names... Simple!

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Oops, posted this when I got back from the bar :beer: -- thought it was the pub.

I'm going to call her (Brandi) in a few hours-- I hope she doesn't cry. The day after I met her, she started telling me about her problems and how crappy things are going-- I think she was trying to build a prison around me.

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What an unpleasant situation.

Well, if you just tell her the truth in such a way that she gets angry there is a good chance that she'll get over it rather quickly. But then again, advice over the internet isn't necessarily good advice.
Just say what you think is appropriate.

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So say that you don't want a relationship with her.

Hehe I've been in your situation, and I went with the thing I said above. You might not get a smile back, however, that way you will clarify that this is the deal etc.
I know these situations sucks, but as I see it, you don't have many options here.

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Something along the lines of
'I think this has been going a bit fast, and this is really awkward for me to say but that's just the thing. It's not you, it's me. You must know where that line goes, it's a classic. I don't think I'm ready for this sort of relationship right now so I've got to back off, it's probably better if we don't see each other this way anymore.'
I'd imagine. Then hope to hell she doesn't see you with the other girl.

Or there's the whole:
'Yo! Yo - biatch! I is talking ta you! I'm just here to fuck your brains out then leave you in a pool of your own misery so shut your trap before I pimp slap yo' ass.'

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Personally, I'd do the latter of Nemmerle's post ;)

But seriously, I'd make sure she go tthe message that you're not going out, I've seen this guy who tried to sugar-coat it, and well, let's just say that after a few days, he did the latter of Nemmerle's post. So make sure you get the message across. ;)

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"get outta there!"

That's my best advice. You shouldn't feel like getting wrapped up with someone you don't really like anymore, because, what's the point of dating someone you don't like?

Plus, if she's bringing up her bad home situation, she's one of those people you don't want to be a "caretaker" to.

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Play the gay card. That worked for me once, lucky I don't feel bad about kissing guys. Oh, wait you already slept with her. :p

Honestly, I would shame out and drop out. Say that you made a mistake first off, and that you didn't intend to ever have a relationship (do NOT say "with her"), and that in those circumstances, the sex was (perhaps) a bad idea. Your life can't handle the pressure of a relationship, and you would only end up dissapointing and feeling worse. You hate having to do this, but you're doing it now to stop something worse later down the track. You're sorry (but don't labour it), and you hope that she understands. You're having a tough time with one of your friends (she got pregnant and is really insecure and needs a lot of your time and support) and you feel that you can't divert time from her with a relationship with someone else.

Try that, if there's still time.
It's worked for me.

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Update: Did the phone call on the way out to a friends cabin (a good two day buffer zone). Hung out with her and my brother today, and things are fine, I think we can be friends easily, and she gets the point.

Am planning a date with the other girl.

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Did you say "it's not you, it's me?" Because I was just gonna rapidly post saying not to. :lol:

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Good luck. Work relationships usually end up with one person quiting.
How much do you like your job?
Ask yourself, is this new piece of ass worth your paycheck if something goes bad?
:beer:

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Sometimes it works, I know a couple that works at the same place (but they didn't meet there), they don't seem to have any problems so far. Probably because they are too busy with their work :)

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I'm a supervisor at Dairy Queen (so's she)-- I don't think I'll be there much longer.

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Ahh, carry on then and dip that cone.
:beer: