Girl Help
 

Ok, i need help with this 1 girl. Ive liked her for about 4 years and i can seem to be able to talk to her. Its so hard. I studder and everthing. But we talk on the internet alot. I just want to know how i can overcome my fear of talking to her. Plz help me with this problem.

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Time, practice, and experience. You are quite young, this awkwardness is normal.

Have more confidence in self, and it will be easier to talk without fearing what she may think of you.

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Thats what people always tell me, but it never works. Like, if i walked up to her, what would i say. She knows i like her, so thats why its hard to talk to her.

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That should make it easier. Just talk to her like she's naked. hahaha, just kidding. You'd drool all over her. No, just talk to her like she isn't there.

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Already tried it. Didnt work

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How? How it "didn't work"?

Explain, and we may be able to help you better. What happened? Did you not find appropriate words for her? Did you start stumbling through speech or spit at her?

Also, it may be relevant to discover how she feels toward you. Meaning: if you know she likes you, it will make things easier, so this will not be mystery any longer and give you confidence.

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Well, she used to like me. But now she wont tell me who she likes. Its just so hard because she is always around her friends and i never GET the chance to talk to her any more.

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I say, lay off and let her come to you. Sometimes teenage males push too hard--and so sometimes it's better to be cool, play it cool, and act like it means nothing to you if she comes around or not.

If she likes you, she'll come to you. If not, find someone else--she's probably young as well and doesn't know what the hell she wants (very few women actually do). ;)

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You just need to get the balls to go up to her and tell her how you feel!
If that don't work, then your OUT! She is gonna run off with some jock and you will never get that chance again!

Don't wanna sound like an ass, but that is how it is! A woman wants a man that knows what he wants and takes it!

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Ask to speak to her alone, make it clear it's important to you. Then ask if she like you. Very simple--if you do it, do it quickly. Or it builds up and becomes stressful the more you think about doing it.

This is also sensible.

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Obviously you want to do this. Just get her alone and go for it.
So don't over think it. Trust me, it will scare you out of doing it with all the possiblities.
How does she know you like her?

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They did a test in that show Brainiac to test wether it's true that picturing the interviewers naked would calm you down. The first round for the job interview the unsuspected guy had a normal interview and the secound round to his supirse the three interviewers (one old man and two young woman) were in der underwear. It only made him more nervous (they measured his heartritm constantly).

On topic: Just go for it, don't use a "messenger" dont sent a letter or an email Tell her directly tha tis the most direct and personal way and she can not "avoid" or "ignore" you. (Well afterwards maybe if she gets pissed but that would be very immature). Get a conversation going, chat about about relations and then ask her. Goodluck.

Though your orginal post doesnt seem to indicate you want to have a true relationship with her, in that case you should just go to her and talk since afterall whats so different about talking in real life and via a computer? Sure it's a bit less direct but if don't make any "mistakes" online then why should you make them offline? Just talk :p.

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I would personally say you've probably left it too late already.

4 years seems a heck of a long time to be waiting, and as you know, all the bottled up anxiety/ nerves just are making things worse.

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Only teenagers???:lol:

Anyhow. Just stay cool man. Remember, you are a male. A male should never feel ashamed for having his needs. That includes you aswell. What is the worst that can happen? You get a no. I mean it's not like the entire school will know about it. You might be screwed among her friends, but there are billions other. I promise.
But as I said: Stay cool and don't be Captian Obvious. Girls love when guys like them, and girls hate when guys that used to like them, don't anymore.
That's why the game is made that way. Guys show some interest and after a while they will back of. In 99 cases out of 100 the girl will come to you.

Good luck!

And remember: You are a male, and you should never feel ashamed for having your needs.
Say after me: I'm a male, I will never feel ashamed for having my needs!
Now repeat that till you believe in it.

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ask her if you can call her, its harder to talk to a girl face to face sometimes so the best way to get over it is to talk to her over the phone.

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forget her and get on with life.Surely you will meet plenty of girls later.

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"I'm a male, I will never feel ashamed for having my needs!"

Have you forgotten those important words allready?

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Ask her as soon as you see her next. Or forever be a wuss. Confidence = Sucess.