Flirting help.
 

Ok I like this girl and i dont know if she likes me in the goingout kinda like. So anyway i need help flirting any good tips would be nice. And please im not a ganster or whatever so dont give them kind of tips, im a redneck.

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What kind of girl is she? Outgoing, shy, popular, has dated lots of guys, etc. etc? In general I'd say try to hang out with her as friends first. Joke around and let her know you're a nice guy, give her a few compliments, but don't over do it either.

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http://forums.filefront.com/images/smilies/bdito.gif

Girls don't like "bad boys". Well that's not true... They do, but that's not the kind of guy you bring home for dinner. The key really is to just be yourself, though. If you make up some elaborate ploy to win her heart, you can't keep it up forever and she'll find out.

Besides, you're young. High school relationships are like cookies. Tasty, but they don't last very long usually http://forums.filefront.com/images/smilies/winkx.gif

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Well shes not the hottest girlin school but i would pick her over the hottest girl in school if i could pick. Shes got a great personality, Shes not shy but she is in some things, she hasnt dated meny guys seriously.
I started talking to her more than usual than before, she like to joke around and that kind of stuff. I just got that feeling like I love her but we never went out lol.

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Lol...high school romance. Yep, Inyri gives good advice - be yourself, because you want to end up with a girl that likes you for who you are. One of the keys to a successful relationship is really communicating with one another.

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I'm in the same boat, in a way. Girl seems to like you, smiles a lot, asks lots of questions, etc.
I try to just be myself, try to be nice, to drop a compliment here and there but to not seem stalker-like in your appreciation of her. I think too much of a fondness can appear to be creepy. :p

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Depends on the girl really. She may be more into the "subtle" kind where you just give her a few smiles from across the room, make eye contact a lot, or she may be the type who can respond more to the "physical messing around" type of flirting.

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:agreed
You need to figure that out first, that has gotten me before.

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Yes, above all things be yourself. And if you're quick witted and funny, be so! If your not, don't even try. :p

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Yeah, that's how it works. :rolleyes: What if you're the kind that women don't find attractive? Everybody acts weather they realize it or not. We all act. Some of female attraction even lies in acting and teasing. The worse advice ever made and that always seem to surface is "be yourself". Hog wash! The only way it can work in the long run is being yourself but doing so puts you at great risk of spend your life lonely if you're not lucky or the kind of guy naturally that women falls for.

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:agreed

Be yourself after you've got past the first few waypoints. The initiation stage is all about scoring points -- score enough, and you're through to the next round! Human mating rituals are the biggest farce on the face of the Earth. Even politics don't compare. 'Be yourself' is all fine and dandy if you're married; you're past the stupid rituals, then. But you never saw a peacock pull a bird ( :D ) just by lying around sleeping and watching sport on satellite TV, did you? No, you've got to spread your feathers and waggle your arse in their face -- or, something to that effect.

Of course, the 'be yourself' thing does apply to a certain extent. Don't tell her you're an astronaut who used to be a Formula 1 racing driver or something stupid like that.

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Then you're fucked. Or not, which would seem to be the problem.
And they wonder why there are so many divorces nowadays...
The thing is you're in school, you don't have to worry about whether you'll spend the rest of your life lonely at that stage, romance in school is all about having fun not sticking on the spit and pol. You won't enjoy pretending to be someone else for an extended amount of time, and he's just in school, there's no reason to be in it for anything other than enjoyment.

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Im sick of people saying its high school romance. I know many of you have been there done that. Us 15 - 17 year olds do get feelings you know! its called puberty!

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:rofl: :lolpoint: O_o Sorry but you've no idea how that organised itself in my head.
We know you've got feelings, the thing is in most cases you aren't going to be spending the rest of your life with this person, you've got too unstable a personality at that age for it to be really practical.

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I really need to consider what I say before I say it. Im a little slow tonight :lookaround:

And I do understand what you mean. but my older bro got his girlfriend in year 8 at the age of 14. He is now 22 and is still with her and they are engaged. strange absurb things to occur.

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Well of course, even I know that I'm not going to get married to my current girlfriend. That's just ignorant to think. But it never hurt to have a little fun while we still can, right? It's not as if it'd be a BAD idea to get intimate with someone you're not going to marry. Big deal.

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Yeah, exactly have a little fun. How much fun do you think it's going to be if you're always trying to be something you're not...

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Right, I don't know how I exactly entered this thread, but anyone want to clear up this phrase for me? See below.

:confused:

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http://www.urbandictionary.com/defin...rm=Redneck&r=f :deal:

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As stated before, be yourself. You don't want her liking someone else. Ifshe dosen't like you, she's not your girl. ;)

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Oh, I know some people like that, and they smell bad.

I guess some advice is...don't smell bad. :uhm:

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Well i dont "smell" or am i in the lower class "poor". Anyway im gonna try somethings today. Thanks guys for the input you made me see a bit more. Hopfully she likes me as much as I like her. :bows:

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If yo notice she looks at you, you should just stare at her til she sees you staring, then look away, I get this sometimes, and it seems to sorta work.
Oh, and if she (admin edit: lose the drug talk mmmk? Your not cool), be all like, hey, i have ten, wanna match at lunch? it works.

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Above all have confidence with yourself.
Find out what she likes and talk about that, try not to talk about yourself ;)
Show interest in her.

Do not look away when talking to her, look her straight in the eye, and try to smile.
Just act natural and not like a fake and you should be fine.

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I always have ben myself, i dont want to act differently then who i am. Guess thats why i never had a girlfriend or een a flirt either :p :( . All i can say is just chat a bitwith her, make some fun and work from there.

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What? I really don't understand what you just said.

If you're saying that being a boyfriend requires faking intimacy with a girl, then obviously you've had some bad quality relationships. I try to be as honest and straightforward with friends and girlfriends as I can. I'm not exactly clear as to how your past relationships have gone down, but judging b your attitude they aren't in line with many other people I've witnessed.

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^ Umm dude, Nemmerle said "How much fun do you think it's going to be if you're always trying to be something you're not..."

That means you're not going to have very much fun if you're trying to be someone you're not. "Being someone you're not" means trying to act like a person that you think the girl will fall for."

Does that make sense dude?

On topic: I think I dished out the compliments too much? I don't know, but I still kinda wonder where I went wrong. http://forums.filefront.com/images/smilies/bawl.gif I haven't really had a girlfriend, as sad as it is, it's my reality. http://forums.filefront.com/images/s...28frown%29.gif Maybe if I went to a regular high school I might be surrounded by a bunch of chicks that I could "go out with" or date. But I'm graduating soon, and honestly, I'm happy with the direction I took. It's not the end of the world if you don't have a girlfriend when you're in high school. You should be concentrating on school anyway. http://forums.filefront.com/images/s...rcastic%29.gif Good luck M1, cuz I know exactly what it's like to really like and care for a girl and she doesn't even know it...

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Yeah, don't give out too many compliments, or ones that seem, I don't know, too intimate. Like you don't have to say, you look beautiful, more like you look nice, or pretty, especially if you don't know them well. Just try to get into the flow of a conversation if you can.

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First of all, don't call me dude. I'm not a friend of yours. Second, I know what he was saying, and I adressed that in my post. Maybe you guys are all for the whole "fake to get liked" thing, but that's not how I roll. Honesty to yourself and her is key.

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Oh, if you've reached the "next round" as Mr. Matt put it, think perhaps about doing something a bit more out there to make her feel special. I gave this girl I like flowers the other day and got her number and plans for the weekend. :smokin:

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your in luck man cuz im a fellow redneck my self and yes i myself do know how to flirt with girls. 1st off do somthing simple with her like try to comfert her if she is having problems. thats mostly how i had gotten my gf. make sure you say hi to her every day to let her know you care about her. no need to go into long conversations just simple hi when you see her. always try to make her laugh but dont be to pervy or she might think your just to much for her. remember offer to help her out as much as posible and she will like you. :)

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Nah, what I'm saying is there's no point in pretending to be someone you're not to get a girl because you won't really enjoy it over a long period of time.
And exactly what do you mean by 'judging by your attitude they aren't in line with many other people I've witnessed'?

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Just shut up and be mysterious.

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Iv had many gf in my life lol 8 to be right lol. Way i got them was manly being there friend at first. 5 of them i didnt even like at first and once i got to know them i started liking them and so did they. just manly be there friend and be there when they need some one. dont be there every single day thoe cause then they would know you like them or just a stalker. if they really like you they will come to you lol. so just be your self and be there friend manly. dont push it like asking for there phone number when you first met them lol. just talk like you would talk to any of your friends.

also there may be people in here that say dont be your self well be your self. because you want them to like you for who you are not a fake. if they like you for a fake and get tired of being the fake and want to be your self most likely they will leave you. specialy if you get to involved with her. always be your self not a fake.

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^^^That's precisely what I just said. And by that I meant that you seemed to have this automatic negative attitude toward "young love" and I figured that maybe you'd had some bad experiences. I completely agree, faking a personality or lifestyle just to get a girl is one of the lamest (and shortest lasting) ways to get one.

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yeah just b yourself like my girlfrend lvoes em for who i am (sad sad girl) and i love her for that to u just gotta be who u r normally :smokin:

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Okay, this will get you any girl in the sack, I dono how it works for long term, I havent tried. BACK ENDED COMPLIMENTS! Dude, say things like, "My friends all think your fat, but I think they are wrong, I like a little junk in the trunk", do some obvious teasing, and dont be afraid to do light pushing and shoving. Like in the middle of walking down the street try and walk her into a pole hehe, and when she asks if you where gona make her hit is say, "mabey".
I swear it will work.

At the same time be yourself, and NEVER get involved in "controversial" conversations. Its dead that night.

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This is the cutest thing Ive ever seen! Takes me back.

I would say that the fact that you are shy yourself probably speaks volumes to how youll treat her, and who you are as a person.

Above all, be yourself. Ive put on an act before, cuz I knew it would get me the girl, and I felt dirty. Oh, I enjoyed the shit out of the time I spent with that gorgeous piece of.. Oh, back to topic. Yeah, dont do that man. Not if you want it to last.

If that doesnt work, give her lots of :beer: :beer: :beer:

And be SURE to compliment her. Girls love compliments, but be clever about it, things that you wouldnt think she would expect you to notice. You can bet anything about her that you like, like a piece of jewelry, or tiny tatoo above her left nipple, or maybe even just the way her hair sometimes falls into her eyes, she did that on purpose. Or if she didnt do it on purpose, she is well aware of that particular aspect of herself, and maybe even self-conscious about it (good for you, cuz you can reinforce her confidence, and make her feel better about it).

Ah, I wish I was still "playing the field" as they say. Girls are cool. The chase is half the fun you know.

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Dont do anything this guy says. Seriously, you can ignore all the other advice, and still have a much better chance with her if you completely ignore this guy.

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Somehow I doubt this is really the best way...

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"Hey, does this smell like chloroform to you?"

That'll get you just about any girl.

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What do you want me to call you? Idiot? Moron? or just plain "Faction"?

I think people should be themselves, and not show a false image of themselves to a potential partner.


You really are ignorant, aren't you?

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Whatever man, it works, dont bash what you don't know.

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:lol: Someone needs some revising of their treatment of women...Just try to talk to them, be their friend, it's much easier if they knw you then it is to start flirting with a random stranger.

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How about YOU DONT BASH WHAT YOU DON'T -beep- KNOW -beep-!
You don't be an -beep-, its playing around -beep-. I am not saying push her directly into a pole and say, "YOUR -beep- UGLY -beep-". My method is a very widely used form of flirtation.

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Relax.
I have to agree with the others, your advice is, to put it nice, silly.

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Well, tried and tested it comes out with smashing results. If you are all too pussy to try it, your loss I'm done with this thread, peace.

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well maybe some girls like different things, but i have to say, your things are a little silly and would either get you into their pants (not likely) or get you a slap in the face.

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Yeah, I must be to pussy to say "My friends all think your fat, but I think they are wrong, I like a little junk in the trunk"
:lol:
That'l melt their hearts everytime :lol:

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Ooh snap, I have come out of retirement from this thread to point out it is for like second date usage, not pickup lines, for you all need some serious help. I would agree, simplicity works best with pick ups, IE hello's and just talking. However, after small talk is done with, heed my advice.
Teasing is one of the MOST effective ways to flirt.

"My friends all think your fat, but I think they are wrong, I like a little junk in the trunk" IT WILL WORK. Don't make it sound literal, holy shit if you all feel like you should be saying this as if it was a fucking fact you need to go for sarcasm checks.
You don't tell them they are fat, goofballs.

Its the point of not being afriad to be physical and lightly aggresive, don't be fucking whipped, they HATE that. Don't call them up and ask where they wana go, tell them, "Lets go here". If they don't want to, convince them to, either way you'll both have a good time. If you follow this, you must choose a wide variety of place to go, switch it up. Tease them, and that pole thing, don't let them hit the damn pole. Are you stupid? Joke around that you were gona let them walk into it.

Sheit. Gotta baby you all. I am gona stick around, now I am having fun.