How do I prevent my friend from making a BIG mistake? - Page 3

***NiteStryker*** · March 21st, 2005

Im almost wondering if Azh should get involved at all. The best you can do is give advice. Beyond that, its his choice. Just realize you may loose a friendship for doing whats right. He wont think its right but hes not looking long term.

***Yannick*** · March 22nd, 2005

The only way I see this ever working is if you talk to Trevor. If Lucy want's a kid, but Trevor cannot give one, then it aint gunna work is it? Sit him down, talk to him, make him see sense.

***Lord Wiener*** · March 22nd, 2005

Being the best friend in a situation like this is always the hardest position of all. You have a more or less complete overview of the situation and don't want your friend to run into the knife.

Azh, or Alan, the only advice I can give is: tell him the cold, hard truth.

Tell him that you're telling him as his friend, and that you're not trying to keep him from being happy. Ask him whether he's forgotten the pain and misery he went through the last time.
Of course, you run the risk of pushing him away with that decision, but that's how I would handle such a situation....but that's just me. I tell my friends my honest opinion on their problems, even if it's not what they want to hear.

Just be sure to tell him you're his friend and you're telling him as his friend.

Good luck.

***NiteStryker*** · March 22nd, 2005

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Just be sure to tell him you're his friend and you're telling him as his friend.

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But dont spin any positives. Lay it out exactly as it is. Dont be nice about it, dont be constructive. He has to know how bad this is...

Keep us informed.

adibou · March 22nd, 2005

AzH, my friend, you should stay away from that because you can loos your friend.He is inn love in here.He will not listen tou you.Believe me, I had almost the same situation couple of years ago and just like you, I've tryed to help my friend and I loost him.I will not bother you with my story right now but you should trust me on this one because I know what I'm talking about.
I know that is very difucult to let thing go. I know you like him, I know you care for him but you should listen to me.
Stay away and be there when he need you.
This relationship between Trevor and Lucy will not last more then 2 - 3 months( this is my opinion about their relatioship)

BTW good luck if you decide to do othewise

Col Jimmy Emeric · March 22nd, 2005

that is a tough situation to be in. I have never been in a situation like that so i dont know exactly what to tell you. You should give him some advise but dont be forceful. If he does decide to go back with her then just be there to help her get over her again.

good luck and i hope everything goes well