marriage - yes or no?

[nycgamer]

Well, since we're not sodbusting on the ole plains anymore, why do men and women need to get married? In other words, women don't need men to lead full, productive lives and men don't need women to get along either. It's not like in the old Wild West when it was just too hard to survive alone and we needed to populate the new frontier with as many kids as possible. The human population is getting too overcrowded for this planet anyway and there are already too many kids without even a single parent - so tell me, why are people still getting married and having kids? Most people are too consumed with looks, money and popularity to care about anyone else and figure "why should I have to put up with someone else's bullsh*t when I don't really need them anyway? It's all about ME!", hence the high divorce rate. I'm not saying I have an opinion about marriage either way - I'm simply stating one side of the argument to see how other people feel about it.

[Vassili Z_superior]

your sig is cool

[Mr. Matt]

LMAO... *ahem*spam*ahem*

I know that I wouldn't want to have been brought up without both my legitimate parents...
Maybe the question you should be asking is why get married if you're not sure if you want to spend your whole life with that person?

[Spyder F-16]

It's like buying a car...

Btw, you aint supportin the feminists are you?

[hobo joe]

Originally posted by Vassili Z_superior
your sig is cool

you, sir, are a dumbass

[Vikki]

please dont start that feminist b/s


i think matt was right with "why get married if you're not sure if you want to spend your whole life with that person?"

thats IS the real question. But I agree that society is to wraped up in appearances over personality. That just seems where things are turning for people. I find myself saddened by watching young boys [turning into young men] lust after gorgous super model women - please!!! we all know the odds of getting one (unless you have some multimillionaire uncle you can poision). It goes both ways, though. I would never find myself with a ben afleck (sp?). its just unrealistic. i think the general public should realize that is what they are - normal people - and start accepting OTHER normal people into their lives.

Yet we are too wrapped up in having better everything: cars, computers , women/men, houses, jobs exc.. that most people cant find themselves happy with one person - they have to keep finding better ( when i say 'we' i mean the U.S. - im not sure how it is in other countries, but i know thats how most of 'us' are).

I can accept that im normal - theres nothing spectacular about me - and thats just me - im average. I dont know though - maybe I will know who's the 'right' one when someone makes me feel spectacular.

ugh i dont care - sorry for my rant - ill go back to bed.


***** and on the 'too many children running around without parents' hasnt anyone heard of birth control?? jesus.. maybe we need to make a ban on how many children someone can have before they have to use birth control - base the # of children on income, more $$$ more kids. hmm.. that would never work. oh well *****

[azzkiker]

Here's some advice: "Don't marry someone u can live with...marry someone u CAN'T live withOUT!!!"

~azzr (FN|Staff ... GF|Mod)

[Vikki]

I thought about this for a while, and I think everyone - at least one time in their lives - finds 'that someone they cant live without'. I think it just depends on what they do with that moment. I think alot of people screw that special someone over - they lie, cheat or not even notice, exc...

I think thats where the high divorce rate comes from. I think people just cannot stay interested. There's too many 'good things' out there to try out. i think the adultry percent in marraige is at 30something... if not more in our 'new sex-driven' day and age. And i doubt the access that the internet gives doesnt help (dont beat me here - its not like it want to burn the itnernet on the stake like the salem witches.. ) It just offers easier access to meeting more new interesting people, thats all. ( i am not saying all divorces come from cheating spouses, just saying one option.

In my eyes, i couldnt see myself getting married. i havent seen a marraige work out, and i dont see why mine should either. Cohabitants seems like it would be a better solution. Ill just stick with that

[azzkiker]

No offenec....but if u ask me, i think u have a sad case!

[Vikki]

why am i sad? that i dont trust marraiges? or that i couldnt see myself in one?

i dont think there is anything wrong with cohabitant relationships - if you find out its the wrong 'one' then you can get the right 'one' without pricy divorces.

It makes me nervous to think of getting married because i have gotten used to that person for so long. But im happy where i am now so i really dont want to worry about it