A thought that arose in me after reading around in the "Dueling" thread.
But first of all: Hi.
To the point. How is your reaction upon an insult? Let's say someone who comes up to you and says "Hey, fuck you, you're an idiot" or anything in that matter, not in a joking way?
I want to quote this:
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Originally Posted by MrFancypants
In general I don't like the idea of risking death over something trivial like an insult.
It made me think a lot... In a good way. And I see that it makes a lot of sense to not making a fuss outta something like a word (in this case, an insult), just a waste of time.
But I've looked a lot into myself, and I've come to realize that I'm kind of 'sensible' when it comes to being insulted. I do also consider my honor to be something very important (which has led me to feel a bit stupid and shallow) and therefore I can take to myself pretty badly when someone insults me in a way that it hits that particular nerve, so to speak.
Generally I don't give a damn though, but it all depends on the person and the situations, I guess.
What is your opinion on all this matter? Do any of you guys also take it badly with particular insults directed to you or do you just not give a fuck about it?
Very few people insult me these days. And generally if you do you go on my shit list. The more personal the insult the more likely you are to go on my SL though - if it was just a statement that all Xs were Ys and I was an X and Y was something where you might have made a reasonable mistake, then I'd probably not pay much mind to the language it was expressed in.
As for people who are deeply SL'd. Well, I generally just don't associate with them. However, I bear grudges for a very very long time. I remember people who did me some petty wrong a decade ago and if they ever need anything from me, or anything I can exercise control over, they're gonna be fighting uphill for it. I don't feel grudges particularly deeply, and that leads some people to the impression I don't hold them at all because I don't go around thundering about it. It's not like I go looking for the opportunity to do people over either, not worth the bother. But, I do remember them. If some day I can hurt you in return for some slight that I remember you doing, even if I don't feel sore about it anymore, then I'll do it more or less out of hand.
"Slippery slopes can be fun - kind of like a water slide."
- Larry, Burn Notice
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To the point. How is your reaction upon an insult? Let's say someone who comes up to you and says "Hey, fuck you, you're an idiot" or anything in that matter, not in a joking way?
Quite simply, I would simply say 'okay' and wander off on my way. No need to let some random asshole darken my day by letting the fool get to me. I suppose it helps that I've been taking all kinds of insults for my entire life. I've kinda gotten used to it. Besides, after some of the stuff I've heard directed my way, "Hey, fuck you, you're an idiot" might as well be "Hey, nice day we're having"
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Originally Posted by Einherjar Silberio
What is your opinion on all this matter? Do any of you guys also take it badly with particular insults directed to you or do you just not give a fuck about it?
Generally, no fucks are given. Unfortunately, I am not an emotionless robot, so I can be insulted, but it takes a lot to make me feel insulted... Unless you're part of my family, in which case, it seems to be very easy. XD
But when you speak of insults, I am simply assuming you mean verbal harassment. There are so many more ways to make someone feel insulted...
Disclaimer: Personal opinions are not endorsed by Ryojin.
In my personal life, I know well that people are going to think what they are want to think anyway. You cannot stop it, so you may as well just not pay any heed to them.
Now sure, the things that make you angry to no end is nature's way of telling you that you are still alive, and that you still give a shit, plus it incites you to do better things. Regardless, there are always going to be battles that are futile at best, and are entirely not worth your breath, or your time.
I don't really get straight up insulted like that... I mean, if I were, I'd probably want to punch the guy in the face, but after thinking about it that'd probably cause some serious health issues for him.
I'd probably just ignore him. If it's a client that I'm working with and they act like that, I'll ignore them and they won't get what they want. I mean, they probably weren't going to get it either way, but insulting me is a bad way of going about it.
What is your opinion on all this matter? Do any of you guys also take it badly with particular insults directed to you or do you just not give a fuck about it?
depending who it comes from, my family I'll take it, only so far I have no issue telling my sister to go F off.
Non family members I'll go off on them (depending on how well I know them) I curse them out, yell random Warhammer 40k quotes at them it stops them dead when I yell "Long shall be your suffering. Joyous be your pain."
or Do you hear the voices too?!! Sanity is for the weak! Let us play hide and slay! Burn the body; sear the soul
I mean if I yelled that at you you'd be what the fuck? I mean after that they back off thinking I'm a nutter so...yeah
Once upon a time, I might have gone off on people who insulted me, but as time has passed, I've learned to just not give a crap most of the time. Sometimes I react, depending on how bad the insult is, but I don't have as strong a reaction now as I would have years ago.
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But, I do remember them. If some day I can hurt you in return for some slight that I remember you doing, even if I don't feel sore about it anymore, then I'll do it more or less out of hand.
Why? What's the point of returning such, if all that comes out of it is more and more troubles? It only escalates like that and it doesn't do one's reputation any good.
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Generally, I've never been directly insulted seriously. The only time I remember was in secondary school and that was more bullying than anything. Even then, I didn't really care about it much.
If someone does insult me, I don't care about it either. Usually I either ignore or response casually, ironically or sarcastically.
Why? Because I don't see the point of really bothering yourself and others with annoyance or anything – not that I'm annoyed in the first place. If they insult you they don't really deserve a serious response or much of your time. Just get over it, simple.
Why? What's the point of returning such, if all that comes out of it is more and more troubles? It only escalates like that and it doesn't do one's reputation any good.
Your description just doesn't line up with my experience. I used to be vastly more forgiving and no good ever came of it. I found, once I was prepared to effectively write people off and screw them in vengeance over things like excessive insults, more and more people of the sort I didn't want around started leaving me alone or dealing with me on better terms.
It's like... say you've got a king and he makes it clear that anyone who sleeps with his daughter's going to be beheaded. Someone sleeps with his daughter and then says to the king, "After all, if you behead me now your daughter will still be pregnant, and you'll have blood on your floor and an upset daughter to deal with. At this point you only stand to lose by killing me."
And the king says?...
"If I back down now, then people will know they can screw me whenever they like and have nothing come of it. And that's a larger cost than an upset daughter and a bloody floor."
Everyone gets a few mistakes. Because everyone fucks up, not all our senses of humour are the same, not everyone has the same boundaries - if you set your grounds for being insulted low then you'll be going after everyone, even your friends. But my reputation has, for a long time, been, "I wouldn't fuck with [Nem], he'll kill you." And it's a reputation that serves me well. At this point reinforcing that impression seems the natural and logical thing to do - like closing a door when you go into a room; automatic care taking.
I honestly don't remember the last time I have been insulted. I'm the kind of person that just like "Ummmm okay?" And walk it off.
Wait, it just hit me, I do remember the last time. It was before my daughter was born. I informed people nicely what they are suppose to do at the hospital (which was family), and some, not all, got all pissed and really insulted me. Saying stuff like I'm going to be a over protective mother and keep her sheltered from the world, etc. Ohhh I'm sorry is it wrong of me to remind you to wash your hands before you hold a newborn? I don't know where they all got that stuff from (what they said). But I was upset about it for like a week and end up letting it go.
I never try to get someone back. Causes more problems. I just normally get it go in time.
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