Advice
 

Right, I have a bit of a situation on my hands.

As you may recall, a few weeks ago I informed you all of how my girlfriend of four years ended it with me. Well, I come to you now with a whole new problem and one with which I need advice on. I've been on the 'prowl' looking for new love, and I thought I'd found it. Her name's Kez, and we've known each other for over a year now. We've always got along great, and we have a common interest in the same things. All is well and good, and up until now it didn't bother me that she had a boyfriend. Until yesterday...

On lunch at work, I get a text from her asking me to call her. I do so, with mucho interest. Apparently, her boyfriend had been treating her like shit and she needs a shoulder to cry on. Step forward, moi. For the next half-hour we talk about it and I be a mate. But all sorts of emotions are being chucked around. Like feelings for her, for example.

Presenting part two of the problem; the Advisor. After this call, I turned to Rachael - a colleague of mine - and asked for some advice on the situation. Again, we sat for a good half-hour talking about it and some nice stuff was said. We swapped numbers, emails and we realised we have more in common than we though. All very well, except now I have feelings for two girls with whom I like and know very well. It doesn't end there, oh no.

Kez contacts me again today saying that yesterday she was just being an emo, and that her and her boyfriend are still very much together. She progressed to thank me 'for keeping her sane' and gave some kisses. I text Racheal and update her as she requested. She said she was sorry and that I should support Kez, and to continue being her friend through it all. I tell her it won't be easy, but she said her friend did it with her and her current boyfriend. Gah!

At this point in time, I feel like dying. I was cruelly dumped after four years and now two possible objects of desire have been snatched away from me, particually Kez hurting more so. I don't know what to do.

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There really is only one solution to this sort of problem.

Large quantities of alcohol, in a licenced rocking establishment every friday night.

It cures all those relationship blues.

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life sucks

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Unfortunately, all the decent spots around here are tonight filled with underage chavs getting wrecked before heading back to school tomorrow. I don't fancy Little Jimmy screaming in my face all night. I have a bottle of vodka to keep my company.
Idiot. Go and die a horrible newbie death.

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all i was saying was that life is not perfect

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And thats going to help my problem, how?

I wanted some advice, dude. If I wanted retarded comments like that, I'd have asked. But I didn't; I asked for some good advice.

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Calm down guys.

Remember, its harder to say something nice, but its heck of alot more satisfying.

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ok what i do is just stay good good friends with one of them and the one that dumps or gets dumped first you make your move.

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Okay, maybe you should tell them both exactly how you feel. Then, if either break-up with their current boyfriends, you're in with a shot.

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I figure the best way to go about things, is to just play it easy and steady.

Stay friends with both of them, look after them, be their best friend, their shoulder to cry on, their drinking partner, whatever. Just keep things between you as friends, because sometimes, without realising, that may be all you're after. I know, I'd much rather have 100 friends, than just that 1 special person.

And hey, who knows, in the end it might turn into something deeper, but if it doesnt, dont worry - you'll have two great friends who'll be there for you through thick and thin.